Thursday, December 27, 2012

What I learned in Hawaii

Traveling is one of those things that pushes me slightly out of my comfort zone but I love things that push me out of my comfort zone (I can say that now that I am back in my comfort zone). I always learn a lot about myself, good and bad but it just gives me an opportunity to see what I need to work on. Really anything that takes me way out of my routine takes me out of my comfort zone. When me and the hubanator went to Hawaii for his conference (no, I won't tell what it was about it would just leave you depressed) it definitely pushed me out of my comfort zone. Going to a new place and spending the days there by myself a little frightening for a person who hasn't traveled other then to see family pretty much for the past 12 years. I just kept telling myself on the bright side if I am alone no one will be there to complain about how much I want to stop and take pictures.  I went to Kailua beach the first day and saw pretty much everyone either with family or a significant other. I just wanted to share it with someone. I was in one of the prettiest places on earth and I had a hard time enjoying it because I had no one to share it with. It really made me stop and think about how really this life is about who you spend it with and the quality of those relationships and not about all the stuff we try and accumulate. Without anyone to share life with it's just blah. As the days wore on it got easier to be by myself and I had a great time but that first day on the beach all my my lonesome was hard and I don't want to forget it. It made me really reflect on how important it is to have quality relationships, to make sure my loved ones know how I feel about them, but also to think outside of what's comfortable and reach out to everyone, cause being lonely sucks! Quite frankly I think it's one of the saddest and most heart breaking things on this earth. Why should anyone be lonely? It's not like there's a shortage of people on earth. It meant to world to me to have conversations with people here and there when I was by myself, I am sure they didn't realize what it meant to me. In the end I did come away from this trip feeling more confident about myself and with some valuable lessons learned. 

Kailua beach, Hawaii

The only picture of me and the hubs together. I didn't get to see him all day but every night was date night :)

Spending so much time on the beach I was definitely in awe of the power of the ocean.

How could I go to the beach take pictures and then not put inspiring quotes on a few of the pictures ;)
Thanks to those on my Face Book page who gave recommendations for quotes when I asked for some, I used two of them.

Hawaii beach

Le'ia beach Hawaii my favorite beach

I was trying to come up with a short poem or whatever you want to call it about how I felt about the ocean and was doing miserably so I told my sister how I felt and she came up with this. Thanks Sis I don't know what I would do without you.

I am curious what takes you out of your comfort zone and makes you learn and grow? Traveling, yay, nay?

All my love,



  1. I have been in you exact situation. My husband had conference classes all day and there I was in Paradise all by myself. I kept wishing my kids were there so I could go explore with them. But this is where my lessons from my Mom kicked in. My Dad was a fireman and gone alot. So my Mom had to do many things by herself. I was her sidekick as a child. My Mom would talk to everyone she met. She took interest in them and met so many people along the way. While I wouldn't consider myself an extrovert, I do as my Mom taught me. I learn about the people around me when I am alone, or even with my family. The world is full of such amazing people.

  2. I love travelling, but I hate being out of my comfort zone. I like to know what's coming - or, if I can't know what's coming, I want someone to be standing with me to absorb the blow. That's probably why I'm such a homebody. As much as I love to see new places and things, I don't want to do it without my nears and dears.

  3. Traveling alone can be uncomfortable but it is also an opportunity to rediscover what you like, especially if you spent every waking moment catering to the needs of your family. Those realizations can be powerful (like the day I realized that I hate leftovers because I really only make food my husband likes . . . I started making more meals that I like an leftovers weren't such a pain!). Thanks for using your talents to share your experiences at those beautiful spots!


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